As I sit with the family album open, I relive the many years, memories and dreams we shared. Yes, there were hard times, bad times, but there were so many good times.

When our children were born, healthy, normal children, we were so blessed.  Babies that together we raised and watched become adults we were so proud of.

The first home we bought, the struggle to raise our family, pay all the bills. Oh yes, I remember, but they were good times. For some reason, the bad times seem so insignificant now, no longer important, only good memories are worth keeping.

The candle flickers, almost dies out, just as now your life is flickering, almost dieing, then you take another deep breath and linger on. I watch you, hold your hand, lean over and gently kiss you, whisper softly in your ear, "It's time to go home baby, time to turn loose and go home". You smile and take yet another breath.

You don't open your eyes, yet you whisper oh so softly, "I love you". Then you point at something I cannot see. It must be something that is comforting you, reassuring you, because you are so calm, so serene, as you take yet another shallow breath.

You have been my husband all of my adult life, but now, I must go on without you for you are going on a journey that I cannot go on yet. So I will go on alone. But as the candle of life flickers and dies, I will have our memories. Our albums we built together to remind me of our years together.

I will forget the pain I have tried to help you bear, the fear, the uncertainty, for these lasted only such a short time compared to the years we  shared. I will look at our children and see a part of you in each of them. I will look at "things" you have built with your hands and see a part of you. No, I won't remember the bad times, the hurt, the pain, I will remember you. You as the man I lived all my adult life with, and be proud of what, together, we created.

So please, go now, go home, go to be with our God, let him comfort you. Let the Angels we feel beside your bed take your hand, go with them My Dear, go home to God.

In Memory of my Husband

Carl

who passed into a happier life

May 29, 2002